Monica J. Griffith


Why is it that we often think we are weak when we seem to fail? Don’t we need to fail in order to succeed?

When you hear someone say what a ‘failure’ they are, or how ‘weak’ they feel, what do you see?

I see someone who is acknowledging that there is more to life than the current experience. I hear them say: There has to be more to life than this! And, I hear them reaching out. That, my friends, is courage!

No one ever said we have to do this life alone. In fact, we are social beings – just like the lion. He is not meant to travel alone. No, Lions are a social group, called a pride. As humans, once we get past the arrogance definition of the word pride, we come to the satisfaction and self-respect meaning of the word.

Courage is the self-respect, dignity and honor side of pride. It is seeing that I may not be where I want to be and taking a small, sweet step to move forward. Sometimes, it is saying “I am sorry.” Sometimes, it is saying “I forgive you.” And, more often than not, it is saying “I forgive myself.” We are not a perfect being – thank goodness! We are flawed, we will fail, and we will make mistakes. What is important is how we ‘show-up’ to those failures!

How do you show up?

Are you filled with arrogance, conceit, self-importance? How has that been working for you?

Or, are you filled with disappointment, let-down and collapse? Again, how has that been working for you?

What if, instead, you acknowledge the value in seeing the flaw; appreciate the opportunity to learn and grow; recognize that you are a person – whole and complete – with the power to put into action steps that will bring the success you seek. What would that be like?

Will it be easy to ‘show-up’ seeing all the good that is possible? Perhaps not; nevertheless, will you?

Will you hear the little voice that says “I’ll try again tomorrow”? Are you willing to ask for and accept the support of others who want to see your successes, who are willing to walk next to you in your journey?

While the path may not seem easy, it can be travelled with ease. Look around – really look – see the people in your corner who are ready, willing and able to be there for you – with you.

Showing up to failures – it takes bravery, guts, nerve…it takes courage!