Monica J. Griffith

Why Aren't Mistakes a One Time Thing 070716

Do you find yourself caught-up in that vicious circle of ‘getting what you have always got’? Does your life continue to play that same broken record?

Sometimes, do you feel as if there is no reason to talk or act. Do you just seem to hit that rewind button on your life and here you go, again? Different day, but same story.

I can’t get to where I am going; I am constantly in where I have already been! What is it about life that seems so difficult for me to master? Are you are expert in stuck-in-a-rut?

Is it possible that you have yet to reflect and learn from what has been, and then engage in that wisdom to create a new what could be? Is it possible?

I love talking with people who know exactly what has gone wrong to bring them to their ‘now’ – and yet, they continue to do what they have always done, expecting to arrive at a new location in life. Hmmm! Interesting! I can say that in the many years I have been leading and coaching, I have yet to see someone take the same path and find themselves in a new location. My friends, that just is not going to happen!

Funny thing about ‘knowing exactly what has gone wrong’ – it is the exactly part that I often find we miss. You see, when I look at my exactly, I am looking through my filters. I cannot see clearly. My lens is clouded with my perceptions and I often miss the learning that will bring wisdom. It is not easy; nevertheless, it can be done with ease.

In the quote for this page, it states we are busy denying our mistakes. Ouch! And, yes! We make excuses (deny the truth) to justify why and how we came to this lot in life. This is how we miss the exactly and continue following that rut we created!

Sounds simple – just remove the filters, tell the truth and all will be well. Ahh…if only!

There we go again – and excuse (if only!). Do you see how quickly we can back away from moving forward?

Here is the assignment – take one simple, truthful look on one thing you said you would do that you didn’t. As soon as you come up with your ‘why’ (and it will likely happen immediately!) ask yourself this question – out loud – Is that the truth? Now, wait for it! You may need to ask that question two or three times! Is that the truth? You will know it is when you can say ‘no’ and there is no follow-up excuse! It is such a simple question, yet creating the ‘No (period)’ answer can be a difficult task! My experience has been the ‘no, but…’ comes several times before the ‘No (period)’!

When the answer comes, be gentle with yourself! It is an enormous step to acknowledge the truth and the first step in creating the wisdom and then the small, sweet action to ‘learn from my mistake and move forward’ in the life I’ll love to live.

You have your assignment – and I am here to support you. Go ahead! You will delight in the lift you feel, once you see the truth, overcome the denial and grow from the wisdom.

I’d love for you to share your success with me. And if you are experiencing a struggle with this – let me know. I can help!!